"Clinic escorting is a difficult and conflicting experience. On the one hand, you feel empowered - you literally are helping someone access the safe and legal abortion care to which they are constitutionally entitled. At the same time, you feel utterly powerless. I can walk the patient and her companion to the door, but I can’t stop the vitriol. I can’t silence the shameful screams or erase the horrific signs. I can’t make the protesters go away. I can’t bring the door any closer to the patients."
Lauren Rankin, a feminist activist, a freelance writer, and a graduate student in Women’s and Gender Studies at Rutgers University, describes her experience as an volunteer escort at a reproductive health care clinic. Read about her experience here. (via beyondxy)
"Women felt more regret, sadness and anger about the pregnancy than about the abortion."
Rocca et al. (2013). Women’s Emotions One Week After Receiving or Being Denied an Abortion in the United States. Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health, 45(3), 122-31.
Experiencing complex, even negative emotions after an abortion does not mean a patient feels they made the wrong decision. Post-abortion emotions vary from patient to patient, and from abortion to abortion, depending on life circumstances, social support, and the difficulty they had making a decision. Forcing all patients to undergo mandatory ultrasounds or biased counseling does not address these issues, and may even make the negative emotions worse.
This study also found that, in one of the groups, most of the women who felt regret also felt relief. Most of the women who felt regret also felt the abortion was still the right decision. Focusing on one or two individual emotions denies the reality that we all live - we all experience multiple, often conflicting emotions at any given time.
If anyone would like the full PDF of the study, send me your email address and I can get it to you. Students can also access it through their library account.
Jesus. I regretted getting pregnant in the first place. I was mad at my body. I was mad at the timing. I was mad at myself. But I didn’t regret the abortion….I regretted backing myself into a corner where I felt I had no other way out. .
reality-sucks-balls asked: I had an abortion four months ago, and it was the worst decision of my life. I regret it every day, and I know I was pushed into it. If someone has the same feelings and/or has come to terms with it, i would really appreciate support. I don't know what else to do
I have had a number of submitters with the same kind of feelings. I hope you heal well and soon
Anonymous asked: To that anon, I was also awake for my abortion. It's was the weirdest, indescribable feeling ever and not in the good way, for me at least. I wish I had been asleep for it.
Anonymous asked: Wait some people are awake when they have abortions? If thats true i have ALOT of respect for them..i would be too scared to be awake..i was asleep for mine
Yes, I was awake during my entire procedure. Thank you, hun (:
I’m sort of freaking out. I’m 17 and yesterday i found out I’m 4 weeks pregnant. Today i found out i was getting a full ride to my dream college. Needless to say, having this baby isn’t in the cards for me. Fortunately, my boyfriend is being very supportive. He knows we need the abortion but honestly he seems more torn up about the idea of it than me, which isn’t typical in guys. It seems so difficult and I’m scared things wont work out. First of all the procedure will cost 650 dollars, he’s going to use his student loans to pay for it, it all seems so crazy to me. Not only that but we have to pay for a lawyer in order to get a judicial bypass, because in my state you have to be 18 to get one without a parents permission. I’m so scared and i really hope everything works out, we talk to the lawyer Monday…
Anonymous asked: how can i anonymously submit my story?
You can do it through the ask box or the submit page here and I will post it as a new text post so it will be anonymous.